Patricia Crane

 

Achieve Your Dreams

By: Patricia J. Crane, Ph.D.

 

Step 1 BE HAPPY NOW

 

*****Be happy with who you are and where you are right now.*****

Abraham Lincoln once said, "A person is just about as happy as he/she makes up his/her mind to be."
                
Too often, people want to achieve something because they think the achievement will make them happy, or others will finally respect them, or they can finally say, "I'm OK after all because I did
this." The exact opposite is true. While there are a variety of blocks that may keep people from achieving their dreams, the primary one is looking to something "out there" to validate you
as a person and make you happy. Happiness comes from the inside.  So the first step to achieving your dreams isn't an action step at all- it's a "being" step. You are a human being, and your most important
task is to be happy right here, right now.


You've no doubt heard this refrain in other ways: learn to love yourself, develop high self-esteem, recognize that the grass is green right where you are, stay in the moment.And no doubt
you intellectually agree whole-heartedly. But the question is: do you actually live as though you believe it? When asked, most people will admit that they don't. It's another concept that's easy to agree with, but not so easy to actually live. Why the discrepancy?

The discrepancy happens because the old beliefs about what you need to do or be to be OK are so deeply ingrained. In our society, the doing and achieving are highly valued. But when you truly accept yourself, you release an enormous energy that was tied up in worrying about whether you were good enough!
Many people have achieved their dreams by doing something that is contrary to what society dictates. For example, a harried executive who dreams of a more peaceful life and takes a pay cut to follow
that dream.

A few years ago while traveling in England, my partner Rick and I encountered the happiest bus driver in the world. (OK, there may be a happier one, but it would be hard to imagine.) Actually, he was the ticket taker. In England, they have assistants on buses that take the tickets and bring around beverages and snacks (which you pay for.) This man was so happy that some of the passengers looked at him as though
he were crazy because it was so unusual to meet someone so jolly in a job most would consider lowly. However, this man really made our day, and reminded us that happiness is a state of being and mind.

Sometimes people worry that if they're happy right where they are, there won't be any impetus to do something else. Again, the opposite is true. The happier you are right now, the more energy and creativity you have for more.

From my perspective, achieving your dreams isn't limited to career and success. What are your dreams for a relationship, friendships, prosperity, health, and traveling? Truly following your dreams in heart-based, not ego based.

While you're in the process of creating and taking action steps toward your dreams, ask yourself:
 How can I be of service today right where I am?
         What can I do to love/respect/accept myself more today?
         Am I willing to choose happiness today?
         How can I make the world a kinder, gentler place today?

There are thousands of processes, techniques, and workshops available to help you change your life. The ones you need will come into your life at the right time. .

For this first step, learning to be happy with who you are and where you are right now, I recommend you use a technique called "mirror work," popularized by best-selling author Louise Hay in her book, You Can Heal Your Life. Go to the mirror every day and look into your eyes, and tell yourself, "I am willing to love and accept you right now. I am willing to be happy with myself right now. I'm willing to be happy where I am right now. I am OK just the way I am right now!" Say this from your emotional level, and be willing to believe it!

 

Step 2
LETTING GO OF LIMITATIONS 
Argue for your limitations and they're yours.
                          -Richard Bach, Illusions

growing up, we all receive comments on our self-worth and abilities. We also have experiences that leave us with beliefs about every area of life- relationships, health, success, prosperity, and ourselves and our own value as a person. These comments and experiences, whether positive or negative, shape our beliefs about what is possible for us in life. Do any of the following sound familiar?

- You're a good girl (or boy.)
- You can't draw.
- You're good in sports.
- You sing off key- just mouth the words.
- You'll never amount to anything.
- Relationships are difficult
- There's never enough money.
- You certainly have a gift with words.
- What makes you think you could be successful?

So now you're an adult, and you want to achieve your dreams. But all the old limiting experiences still exist inside, telling you all the reasons why you can't do what you want. You may also have other limitations, like being too aware of other's opinions, not trusting yourself and Spirit for guidance, or being more concerned with security in life than passion in living. Perhaps you have discovered that "instant transformation" in a weekend doesn't often happen. The process of understanding and working with those apparent limitations takes time and patience. Imagine that you are weeding the inner garden of yourself, lovingly and patiently releasing the old to plant the new seeds. Step by step, you CAN recognize the beliefs that limit you and change them.

How often have you said things to yourself or out loud such as:
- I'm stuck.
- I'll never get past this one.
- It's hard to change.

So- guess what- what you claim is what you get! When you say words like this out loud or to yourself, you are continuing to claim your limitations. The words say that you don't believe change is possible or that you're actually not willing to change! Pay attention to your words, and start by changing the way you
talk to yourself. Tell yourself you are willing to change and grow. Affirm that you are guided to any help you need in releasing the past. Go to the mirror and tell yourself all the positive, encouraging messages you wish you'd received in childhood. Talk to your Inner Child in a loving way. Be committed to choosing thoughts that build you up and nurture you rather than criticizing.


I call this "clearing the old menu items." Clear the past and create new items for the Menu of Life!
Use some of these affirmations to assist you:

-I have clear insights that assist me in releasing the past.
-I am willing to believe that I deserve a wonderful life.
-I begin my new life in this moment.
-I am willing to open my arms and claim the wonderful, fulfilling life I deserve.
-I choose to believe it is easy to clear the menu items I no longer want.
-Any resource I need for my emotional and spiritual healing comes to me quickly and easily.

Ironically, even positive messages can be limitations. As I child, I was quiet and shy, but also a good student, especially in math and science. I was verbally praised for being "good" and told repeatedly that I had a talent for science and "should" become a medical doctor. So I (unconsciously) tried to live out others' ideas and spent 4 years in college as a science major and started graduate school in a chemistry program. Boring!! In the middle of the first semester of graduate school, I realized that my passion was in working with people to improve their lives. So, much to the chagrin of my parents, I quit graduate school, became a social worker, and returned to undergraduate school for a psychology major. Ultimately, I did become a doctor- of psychology! And yet it still took many years to arrive at my greatest passion-
leading workshops.

Be patient with yourself as you focus on the changes you want to make. Resist the temptation to "should" on yourself and create more stress! Take time to journal and meditate and visualize the changes you want. Give yourself lots of support and praise for the changes you do make, however small.

 

Step 3
FINDING YOUR PURPOSE

What is Your Purpose?


Here is a test to determine if your mission here on earth is finished. If you're still here, it's not.
                          -Richard Bach, Illusions
          
At some point in life, we all ask the same questions: Why am I here? What am I supposed to be doing? How can I live a life with purpose, passion, and meaning?"Life purpose" is about more than just your work. It is an overriding philosophy of life that guides you in every area. Remembering your life purpose is just as important in the grocery store or on the freeway as it is in your work. For many people, it is connected with their spiritual life. I believe that everyone shares the same life purpose: to be of service and share unconditional love. However, there are many different ways of expressing that purpose. Some people may express their purpose in a "big" way, like Mother Theresa of Calcutta, and others is a "small" way, as a bus driver who simply greets all passengers with a smile. Truly, there are no "big" and "small" ways, just ways to bring more love and joy to people. Each one is important. You don't even have to have a spiritual belief to choose a life of service.

In my teens I was involved with a religious group and then attended a religious college. While at the college I experienced people talking about unconditional love, but few seemed to be living it. With the wisdom from this part of my life, it's clear that living from that place all the time isn't possible, but I was distressed at the lack of congruency I experienced in college. It was also a turbulent time in the US, with rising consciousness about women's rights, race relations, and war. I began to question my life and what it meant. I decided then that I was an agnostic (not knowing if God existed) and that my life would be about service to people on the planet. I left graduate school to become a social worker in a rough part of Los Angeles. While the experience provided me with a view of life very different from my "middle class" upbringing, ultimately I realized that the way I could be of greatest service was to assist people in changing inside, which would lead to outer changes.
Eventually, I found my spiritual connection again through meditation, even though I started meditating just for reducing my stress! Over the years, I've had many different jobs, but almost all of them had
a common theme- they were focused on service to people in some way.

You can start living from a sense of purpose today. If you want to experience peace, be peaceful with others. If you want to experience love, share love with others. If you want to change the experiences you've been having at work or in a relationship, BE the change you want. Waiting for others to change before you can be happy will result in eternal waiting!
 
To get more in touch with your own sense of purpose, set aside a half hour or more when you won't be disturbed. Have a journal nearby to write in. Put on some relaxing music and meditate for several minutes. Then begin to write spontaneously about your purpose. See what emerges after writing for about 10 or 15 minutes. You can also use a technique pioneered by author Lucia Cappachione, right hand- left hand dialog. We have access to "right brain" wisdom by using our non-dominant hand to answer questions posed by the dominant hand (the one we normally use.) So, to have a dialog with your Inner Wisdom, with your dominant hand, write: What is my purpose? Switch the pen or pencil to your other hand, and
without thinking, let it write and answer. Continue going back and forth with your questions and answers. You may be surprised at the wisdom and direction that emerges!

 


Step 4
LIVING YOUR MISSION WITH PASSION

"When you are inspired by some great purpose, some extraordinary project, all your thoughts break their bonds; your mind transcends limitations, your consciousness expands in every direction, and you find yourself in a new, great and wonderful world. Dormant forces, faculties and talents become alive, and you discover yourself to be a greater person by far than you every dreamed yourself to be." - Patanjali, 1st-3rd century, BC

"Whatever you can do, or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power and magic in it." Goethe, 19th century

"Who are you? What did you come here to learn? What did you come here to teach? We all have a unique purpose. We are more than our personalities, our problems, our fear, our illnesses. We are far more than our bodies. We are all connected with everyone on the planet and all of life. We are all spirit, light energy, vibration, and love, and we all have the power to live our lives with purpose and meaning." 
Patricia J. Crane, Ph.D., still here and living with passion.

 
Do you remember a time in your life when you experienced the energy in Patanjali's quote? A time when a new vision for your life or a desire was born and suddenly your energy expanded and synchronistic events occurred to move you ahead? Many people have this experience when they step out to begin really pursuing their passion in life. Think about people you know that you enjoy being around. Are they bored
with life or excited about it? Most likely they are excited about life and the activities they are involved in. When you're around them, YOUR energy increases. On a daily basis, begin to notice when you feel energized and when you feel drained.

If you already know your passion and mission, and are pursuing them, wonderful! If you know them, but are hesitant to take a step, read on. If you are still discovering them, read on!

Think back to your childhood. Were there dreams you had then that you would still like to pursue? What was exciting and fulfilling to you as a child? Often the seeds of a mission are in events from childhood, sometimes long forgotten.

Too often people wait to pursue their passion because they think. "I'll have to quit my day job- how will I support myself?" Not true! You can start in small ways. Just take a step at a time. Your mind may pop up with excuses- "I'm not smart enough. I'm too old. I don't know where to start. I need a degree." Blah,
blah, blah.... Excuses are just that! One acquaintance of mine became the oldest graduate at California State University, Long Beach. She was 74, having gone back to school after her husband died. She said the young students energized her, and I'm sure she gave them a new image of "old age!"

Ask yourself- how can I start sharing my passion? You might find an organization or group that is doing something related to your passion. If it's helping women, call a shelter and volunteer. If it's teaching people about organic food and gardening, gather some friends for an informative evening or write an article for the local paper. Take some step, and as Patanjali says, "Dormant forces.... become alive."

Set aside quiet time out in nature. Go to the beach, the mountains, or a beautiful garden. Set an intention to discover your mission or to know how to get started (if you're already clear about your mission and pursuing it, you can set an intention to know more about the next step.)  Meditate for as long as feels
comfortable, then open your eyes, and just observe your surroundings. What does nature have to tell you about your mission? What insights are there? Write in a journal, just letting it flow, about your passion and mission. Trust that it is revealed to you. If you don't receive clarity immediately, be patient. Keep setting your intention to gain clarity and it will come.

It's never too late, you're never too old, and you ARE smart enough and good enough.


Our two anthology books, Pearls of Wisdom, are filled with stories of people who overcame challenges to live they life they wanted. You can, too! Go tohttp://www.heartinspired.com/books/index.htm
There is one story online for each book you can read at no cost.

Love and blessings, Patricia
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Step 5

WHAT'S WONDERFUL ABOUT YOU?

"You must love yourself before you love another. By accepting yourself and joyfully being what you are, you fulfill your own abilities, and your simple presence can make others happy."  - Jane Roberts, The Nature of Personal Reality

In a minute or less, list 10 things about you that are wonderful! Are you caring and compassionate, a good listener, have a quick wit, generous with others, a good communicator, etc., etc. If you are resisting doing this, what's so tough about saying what's great about you? Did your parents tell you (as mine did) - "Don't get too big for your britches?" That is, don't brag about yourself or let your ego get too big or think you're the best thing since sliced bread! Well, I advocate, "bragging" about yourself, but not in an egotistical
way. Rather, brag about yourself in a way that recognizes you have some terrific qualities and skills. OK, if you're still having trouble with this, you can tell yourself, "In my own humble opinion, I am wonderful because....."

It may be difficult to claim the positive qualities and skills you have if you were given a lot of negative messages as a child. It's quite sad how many people were told as a young age that they would never amount to anything, or weren't smart, etc. These messages aren't always from parents- they come from
teachers and other authority figures. One young man told me that the first day of school in first grade he was told by a teacher that he was stupid! It's important to take time to talk with your inner child to counteract these old limiting messages. Close your eyes and imagine yourself as a child. Talk to the child,
telling him or her that it's time to let go of limiting ideas, that the adults who gave the negative messages made a mistake. Say very specifically the new beliefs you want to instill on an emotional level: "You are smart. You can do anything you want. You are attractive. You are important. I love you. You are lovable." At first, you may find that the inner child part has difficulty accepting the new beliefs. Just continue talking and doing this exercise as many times as necessary so you can feel there is an inner difference.

If you haven't made that list of 10 things about you that are wonderful, DO IT NOW!! (Please...) You can also call your friends and ask them what's special about you (be sure to call your positive, encouraging friends for this one.) Remember positive comments you've been given from family, friends, employers, etc., about your personal qualities and your skills and abilities. What do people say you're good at that is so easy for you it doesn't even seem like a talent or skill? Become comfortable with knowing your own
special qualities and skills, and feeling confident about them.


Set aside twenty minutes to a half hour to write about your past accomplishments. Divide your life into 10 year segments: 0 -10 years old, 11 - 20, 21- 30, 31- 40, etc. In each 10 year period, list as many accomplishments as you can. Give yourself time to remember. (For example, from 0 - 10 years old, they
might include learning to tie your shoes, learning to ride a bike, achieving something in school, etc.) For each accomplishment, write down where you were, who you were with, and how you felt. When you're all done, look for patterns. Look for skills or talents you used to enjoy expressing, but aren't now. Is there anything from the past you could start doing again that would add more joy to your life? (In doing this exercise myself, I remembered being in the debate club in high school, and how much I enjoyed that.
Yet after high school I didn't do any public speaking for over 20 years and now that's one of my favorite activities.)

When you've completed this process, decide how you can express more of the skills and abilities you discovered. For example, my life partner, Rick, realized that he enjoyed being in front of an audience. He went and auditioned for a community play and got a part! It was a small part, but it was a great step for him to participate more fully in life rather than being a spectator. He went on to develop his skills
as a speaker and now gives motivational workshops for hundreds of people.

The Achieve Your Dreams newsletters are meant to assist you in achieving your dreams in every area. To do that, you must learn to identify and express the unique and wonderful being that you are.
Think about a huge jigsaw puzzle- each piece fits perfectly in a particular place or the puzzle isn't complete. Each piece has a unique shape and design. And each of us has a unique place to fill on this planet. Unfortunately, we often go around for years trying to fit in places that really don't fit us! Are you ready to find YOUR place in the Big Jigsaw Puzzle of Life? Go for it- the world is waiting for you!

Love and blessings, Patricia

P.S. Rick and I lead two types of workshop leader training programs: one is a 7 day intensive based on Louise Hay's philosophy. It is a powerful personal growth program in addition to providing professional
training. You receive complete scripts and outline for workshops based on Louise work. More info: http://www.hylteachers.com
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Inspiring people the world over to a higher level of thinking about who they are, what they've got,
and how to have a more powerful positive impact on the world around them.
Patricia Crane, Ph.D. and Rick Nichols
Heart Inspired Presentations
PO Box 1081, Bonsall, CA 92003  USA
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Step 6
POSSIBILITY THINKING

 

"The greatest revolution of our generation is the discovery that human beings, by changing the inner attitudes of their minds, can change the outer aspects of their lives."  - William James,
psychologist and author, early 20th century

Imagine the scene in 1492 as Columbus sailed away from the shores of Spain. Hundreds were probably there to see him off, some laughing at his fool hardy journey, others sad that he and
his sailors would soon "fall off the earth," and still others (just a few) who sensed this journey would open new vistas for the world.


Columbus himself had a vision few others held. And so, as a result of that journey, a dramatic new view of the world emerged. It's not flat- it's round! Revelations like this have occurred at many points
in history. Galileo determined that the world is not the center of the universe, but chose to recant rather than be put to death.


The Wright brothers proved that we can fly- with the right equipment! Einstein demonstrated new mathematical realities.


When I bought my first computer in 1984- a portable that weighed 40 pounds- I had no idea that by 2002 there would be a vast set of connections that would link me to people all over the world instantaneously!

"Flat world" beliefs not only occur in societies, they occur in us as well. Where in your life have you suddenly discovered that a "limitation" you had accepted for yourself was only a belief, and
that belief could be changed? Where in you life now do you limit yourself?

Letting go of flat world beliefs means opening to the incredible possibilities for your life! What are the dreams you have? What lofty goals do you imagine achieving?Those desires are in your heart for a reason. They are not "too big" for you, they are waiting for you to take action. As a child, I never had a
specific career that I wanted, but I did want to "help the world." That desire has unfolded in ways I couldn't have imagined then. Earlier this year, life partner Rick and I led a workshop leader
training in Florida. One morning, participants were asked (unexpectedly!) to speak in front of the group for two minutes each, introducing themselves as  though they were speaking to a group back home. Most of them had the "flat world" belief  before we started, "I can't speak in front of groups!" But each
one did, and they were terrific! Sometimes you need to be pushed beyond your comfort zone by others, just as a mother sparrow coaxes her babies out of the comfort and safety of the nest so they can fly.

While you are letting go of your flat world beliefs, spend time around people that are making a difference in the world. They will inspire you to go for your dreams! Quite a few years back, Mark Victor Hansen (Chicken Soup for the Soul books) was speaking at a group Rick and I belong to, the Inside Edge (go to insideedge.org.) The first Chicken Soup for the Soul book had been out for a while. Mark asked, "how many have read the book?" Only a few hands went up! Now, if that had been me at the time, I would have
been devastated that my peers were not reading the book. Instead, without missing a beat, Mark said, "Great- there's still a market!" That is possibility thinking!

To access our own inner wisdom, try this: stand in front of a full length mirror. Look at yourself, remembering that you are unique. There has never been, and will never be, anyone exactly like you
on the planet! Open your arms and say to yourself, "I am magnificent!" If that seems difficult, just keep saying it, and be willing to believe it. Then say to yourself, "The way I want to be of service in the world is....." What comes out of your mouth? (If nothing at first, be patient, there is a special place for you to share your talents.) Then ask your "wisdom self," still looking in the mirror, "Where do I start?" and listen for the answer. Then take some time to write down what you experienced. And then go for it!

Love and blessings, Patricia
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Step 7
POSITIVE EXPECTATIONS


"Expect your every need to be met, expect the answer to  every problem, expect abundance on every level, expect to grow spiritually." -Eileen Caddy

Read Eileen Caddy's' quote several times and really FEEL yourself shifting from expectations of lack to expectations of  abundance in every area, from a sense of overwhelm in your life to a sense of trust in the outcome. Doesn't that feel comforting?  Perhaps you even noticed that your body and mind became
more relaxed.

So often our minds are filled with "monkey chatter" that dwells on all the negative expectations we have. We expect (worry) a new love relationship to end, just like all the others. We expect  too little money in the checking account at the end of the month, just like always, We focus on a problem, going over and over it in our minds, rather than affirming for a solution.

There is a wonderful story about Edgar Cayce, a world renowned psychic who lived in the last century. He became famous because of his ability to diagnose illnesses at a distance. Cayce didn't charge
for this service, but he always trusted that whatever was needed would be provided. Once the rent  was due and his wife was getting anxious about having enough for the payment. Cayce assured her they could trust the Universe. Sure enough, the money came in from a grateful client. But instead of paying the

rent, Cayce went out and bought a fishing rod! Imagine the frustration his wife felt! He assured her they could trust. And yes, another donation came in that covered the rent.

Where in you life do you need to expect the solution or expect your needs to be met? The Universal Energy that energizes our cells and is the substance of all there is, from the smallest particle
to the largest star, is abundant in every sense of the word. Because you are a part of that energy, YOU are entitled to all abundance.

From now on, EXPECT miracles, EXPECT to be loved and appreciated,
EXPECT the answers, EXPECT whatever you want.

Changing your expectations (your way of thinking about life) takes practice. Would you go out on a tennis court and expect to play perfectly the first time? No, but you could expect to learn
quickly and play well!  Have you ever watched the Olympics and heard the personal stories of the athletes and how they practice and focus? Pretend that you are in the mental Olympics, and you are going for the gold in your own life. Your task is to be aware of the meanderings of your own mind and continually correct the course when it begins to go down the train track of old expectations. Ask yourself: What thoughts would I like to choose that are nurturing and inspiring to me? If not, what thoughts could you consciously CHOOSE that do feel better? You are in choice, moment by moment. Choose thoughts that nourish your heart and mind, and you will experience wonderful changes in your life!

Love and blessings, Patricia
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Inspiring people the world over to a higher level
of thinking about who they are, what they've got,
and how to have a more powerful positive impact
on the world around them.
Patricia Crane, Ph.D. and Rick Nichols
Heart Inspired Presentations
PO Box 1081, Bonsall, CA 92003  USA
800-969-4584 or 760-728-8783

 

 

Step 8

TAKE A RISK

"And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom." Anais Nin (1903 - 1977)

Is there a longing in your heart to for some activity you want to do or some dream you want to achieve? What have you been waiting for?  Be honest with yourself about the hesitation to act.
Perhaps you fear rejection. Perhaps you fear success. Or you're waiting until you lose the weight or have the money, or.... so many reasons for hesitating. There is always uncertainty when you make a change, but if you keep feeling that longing in your heart, it is there for a reason. Each of us has a special talent or gift to express. We are ALL special in some way.

 

Think of it this way:
it is actually selfish of you NOT to step out and share your gifts.
People are waiting for YOU to be their teacher and guide. Even
if you have a big dream, you can get  started in some small way.
The longer you suppress what you are being called to do, the
less energy you feel for life.

A great book to read when you feel fear about moving forward is Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway, by Susan Jeffers. The title says it all! Susan says that if you are waiting for all the fear to be gone before you take action--- you will always be waiting and not acting!

In the process of blossoming from the bud to the flower, it helps to have supportive people to encourage you. Form a support group, a say yes to your dreams group. Meet in person or on the phone and share your dreams. Brainstorm on ways to move forward, and encourage each other with growth. Rejoice
with each other in the triumphs and the challenges.

What is the new story you want to tell about your life? Give up the old one--- all the reasons why you can't. Embrace a story of possibility, of joy, of living life to the fullest. There was a movie several years ago, Living Life Out Loud. Not the best movie, but one with a great message about taking risks and living life fully. It's always a risk to go in a new direction. Will you regret it if you don't try? Are you going to stay a bud when it's time to blossom?

I've often spoken to women who are afraid that they will lose their relationship if they go for their dreams. While that could be a possibility, I suggest that they hold a different vision: "My relationship becomes even stronger as I go for my dreams!" Truly, energy and passion about something you want are very
attractive!

Perhaps you need to clarify your dreams or envision them more clearly. Use the following exercise to help you in that process.

Take some quiet time by yourself. Relax and breathe. Tune into your inner self. Take your journal and spontaneously finish these statements: Wouldn't it be fun to_______? My dream is to_______. 
I feel alive when I _______________. My greatest satisfaction is _______________. I feel really in tune when___________. What scares me about going for my dream is_______. Keep writing. Let the wisdom
within you emerge and guide you.

Go for it!!

Love and blessings, Patricia
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Inspiring people the world over to a higher level of thinking about who they are, what they've got,
and how to have a more powerful positive impact on the world around them.
Patricia Crane, Ph.D. and Rick Nichols
Heart Inspired Presentations
PO Box 1081, Bonsall, CA 92003  USA
800-969-4584 or 760-728-8783

 

 

Step 9

SHIFT YOUR FOCUS
If you're not getting the results you want in life, it's time to shift your focus!

You may already know and understand that whatever you focus on expands. However, knowing that are actually practicing it are two different things! Right now, think about some area of your
life where you feel challenged. How do you normally think about that area? For example, perhaps your prosperity isn't as great as you would like it to be. And perhaps you are already doing some affirmations that claim you ARE prosperous. But what are you thinking the rest of the day when you aren't doing your affirmations? Or perhaps you have a health challenge. Are you dwelling on the dis-ease? While it seems "normal" to focus on the problem, in fact this perpetuates and expands them! . If you focus on the
challenges, they never get solved. And yet our human "monkey minds" seem to delight in going 'round and 'round with the challenges.
      
A Course in Miracles tells us that the "problem" is never solved on the level of the problem. And guess who else said that- Albert Einstein! So trying to solve a relationship issue on the level of the issue (he
said-she said) doesn't work. Solving financial problems on the level of finances doesn't work. Becoming more healthy by focusing on the illness doesn't work. What does work is to shift your consciousness.
Go to a place of trust, a place of inner connection, where the answers are found. And if you have difficulty doing that by yourself, find a spiritual counselor to help you. Affirm that you are guided
to the right person.

Years ago I heard a wonderful saying that I repeat to myself whenever there are challenges in my life:
"Don't tell God how big your problems are, tell your problems how big God is!" This reminds me that no matter is going on in my life, the energy of Spirit/Universe/God/Goddess (whatever you call the it) is greater than the "problem" I seem to be facing. Immediately, I can relax, because I remember that my consciousness is a part of Divine Consciousness, and that the answer is available, if only I take the time to be still and listen. I let go of trying to "figure it out" on the level of my limited consciousness.  I affirm: All is well. I am perfectly guided by Spirit in the solution for this challenge.

From now on, when you face challenges, remind yourself that Divine Wisdom is bigger than they are. Choose to listen to that inner wisdom rather than the monkey mind. Take time to be quiet and
receive the guidance that is available.

Do you have challenges with finances and prosperity?

We recorded a wonderful book, The Science of Getting Rich.
Learn more about it at http://www.scienceofgettingrichnow.com
These audio CDs will help you shift and focus on the prosperity you
want.
How about a challenge with health?
Our Body, Mind, Miracles CD can help. Go to:
http://www.heartinspired.com/audio/index.htm 

Wishing you health, wealth, wisdom, and happiness.
Patricia
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Step 10

CHANGE YOUR STORY, GO PAST THE FEAR


What is the story you have about your life? What if that story were just one you had learned to believe, and right now you could choose another story?

Silently, in a long straggling line, the 27 workshop participants climbed over and around rocks, moving upward toward an unknown destination. Staying in silence was part of the exercise. There were
places along the way where one could motion for help and other places where one had to receive help to traverse the uneven terrain safely. Hiking along about a third of the way from the front person,
I became aware of how difficult it was for me to ask (even silently) for assistance. My father's voice rang  in my head, "If you want something done right, do it yourself." How many times had I heard
him say that? Dozens, perhaps hundreds. Suddenly I realized how limiting that idea was, the demands I had placed on myself because I believed it.

The group continued hiking upward in the warm California sun. Having never been much of an outdoor buff, I was aware that my leg muscles felt some strain, but the pace was slow enough that I could manage. And then suddenly we came to the top of the climb- a large flat outcropping, overlooking a valley at least
2,000 feet below, with the splendor of the Sierra Mountains in the distance. It was spectacular. "Definitely worth the climb," I thought. We all stood in awe of the scene in front of us. I waited for the workshop leader to signal that we were starting down again.

Instead, Richard spoke. He was standing at the edge of the outcropping. As he spoke, my heart began racing wildly. "I'm going to invite each of you, one by one, to come out on this rock and stand silently looking out over the valley." I looked at the rock he was pointing to- from where I stood, it looked like a very small flat rock jutting out from the large flat piece where we were all standing. Fear flooded my body. If I went out there, I could fall to my death! But already, someone in the group had moved to the
small rock. This person stood there for several moments, then moved back. One by one, other participants went out on the rock and moved back safely. Although I had been in the first third walking up, my feet now seemed glued to the back section of the large rock.

Suddenly I remembered- I know about affirmations! I know how to use my mind! (Strange how we forget in stressful moments.) I began saying to myself, "My feet are sturdy and safe on the rock. I am safe.
I am balanced and comfortable." Thinking these affirmations to myself, I consciously breathed more slowly. Finally, number 23 out of 27, I stepped forward and moved out onto the rock.  Amazingly, the rock jutting out now seemed quite large and perfectly safe. I felt exhilarated looking out over the valley. There were some timeless moments, and then I stepped back onto the larger section. It was  then I realized how often in life I had let my mind tell me something was fearful, and I held back from doing it. How often I made up a scary story about something.

Walking back down the mountain, over and around rocks, it was easier, even enjoyable to ask for help. A higher level of energy pulsed through my body, a greater sense of joy. 

How often have you let fear stop you from going for your dreams?
Are you afraid you'll fail, or look silly? At the end of their lives, people usually regret what they DIDN'T do. Today, take some step, however small, toward a dream you have. Go to the mirror and look in your own eyes and tell yourself, "The world is waiting for what I have to offer. I'm willing to go for it!"

Love and blessings, Patricia
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Inspiring people the world over to a higher level of thinking about who they are, what they've got, and how to have a more powerful positive impact on the world around them.
Patricia Crane, Ph.D. and Rick Nichols
Heart Inspired Presentations
PO Box 1081, Bonsall, CA 92003  USA
800-969-4584 or 760-728-8783

 

Step #11
LOVE AND ACCEPT YOURSELF JUST THE WAY YOU ARE


Loving yourself is the foundation for change.- Louise Hay

What if--- you could accept  yourself and be happy with everything in your life EXACTLY AS IT IS RIGHT NOW? Wouldn't that be a
relief? You could stop tying up your energy with worry and judgments, thus accessing more positive energy for the things you really want to accomplish. Each moment, you have a choice about how to respond to events and people in your life. Making the choice to be happy when things aren't going your way isn't always easy - it does take awareness and practice. Now, I'm not suggesting that you stifle your feelings,
especially at times where there is a significant loss, like a job or loved one.  But isn't it true that most of the time where you're not
choosing happiness, it's because of some minor annoyance during the day or some judgment about yourself? Many years ago I learned the power of being happy and accepting myself just the way I was- and experienced an almost instant behavior change. It happened like this:
When I was 19 years old, I had a wonderful opportunity to participate in a student work program in London. I spent the whole summer there, working in a tea shop during the week and touring around on the weekends. While there, I picked up the habit of smoking. I thought it made me look older and more sophisticated! By the time I flew back to the US, I was addicted. And then spent years trying to quit! Several years later, I began a meditation practice to reduce the stress I was feeling, but also because I had heard that people who started meditating had an easy time quitting smoking. Well, it partially worked! In a short time, I had cut my smoking in half. But I couldn't seem to quit. I'd go on weekend meditation retreats, smoking that "last" cigarette before I went, only to stop at the first store on the way home to buy another pack. I was very judgmental of myself that I couldn't CONTROL this behavior and quit. I kept making myself very unhappy because of the judgment. So, on yet one more course, I'd smoked that "last" cigarette. But after a day, I was craving a cigarette, so I asked my then husband (who had no intention of quitting) if I could smoke some of his. I felt so angry and disappointed with myself. I went back to my room and cried and cried, feeling helpless to change this behavior. And then, from somewhere deep inside, I suddenly decided, "I'll just have to accept myself as a smoker. I can't quit. I'll just accept myself with this behavior." This understanding was a gift from Spirit, as I had not read anything at that time about loving and accepting yourself. Suddenly, I felt peaceful. I finished out the meditation course, and that pack of cigarettes, no longer judging myself--and quit smoking easily and effortlessly! Years later I read a passage in A Course in Miracles that said, "Guilt holds the behavior." How true! When you're feeling guilty, you prevent yourself from changing. Today, the most important decision you can make is to love and accept yourself unconditionally. You will gain great happiness and peace of mind from that simple decision. And miraculously, it will be easy to change the habits you want to change. Accept yourself, accept yourself, accept yourself today!
Love and blessings, Patricia

Step #12
HOLD THE VISION


"Learning is finding out what you already know. Doing is
demonstrating that you know it. Teaching is reminding others
that they know it just as well as you."
                             --Richard Bach

Within all of us there is connection with Divine Wisdom, and we have access to that wisdom whenever we're willing to be quiet and listen. A Course in Miracles tells us, "you have received many answers you haven't heard yet!" Spirit is there whispering, and our ego voice is drowning it out! Meditation is a powerful method for retraining your mind to be quiet and listen.
I began meditating in the '70's. After a while, I began to notice that I would think about something and it would happen! Following one startling event, where I was offered a job I hadn't even applied for, I knew I had to understand what was happening. The book I  discovered was Seth Speaks, by Jane Roberts. It was with this book, as Bach says, that I discovered what I already knew! As I read about the way that we create our reality with our thoughts, I knew this was true for me, even though the ideas were "new" to my conscious mind. I wondered why no one had taught me these ideas growing up!
Once you remember what you know, it's time to start demonstrating that you know it. And that takes retraining your mind, over and over, to focus on what you want to create, rather than claiming what you don't want. Think about some area of your life where you'd like a change. How often are you feeling frustrated that it's not different? How often do you tell others what's wrong? The more you focus on the current situation, what you DON'T want, the more you are holding that experience in your life. The Universe responds to thoughts AND feelings, and it seems that people are often more passionate about what they don't want than what they do want. My partner recalls a time when his mother asked him to repay a loan she'd given him, and he didn't have the money. After getting off the phone with her, he stomped around the house saying loudly, "I don't have any money! I don't have any money!" Having just started learning about affirmations he suddenly realized what he
was doing, and the energy with which he was doing it. No wonder he had no money!
Practice claiming what you DO want with passion and energy. Forget appearances and hold your vision to the reality you are creating. Focus on the results you want, regardless on how out of reach they may seem. Remind others (in a gentle way!) to do the same. Then you are teaching what you also want to know in a deeper way. Your life is your message, so you are continually teaching, regardless of the work you do. With your energy and words, you communicate your beliefs about life every minute of every day.
Achieving your dreams takes courage, persistence, patience and gratitude. Some of them may take years to unfold. Spirit will guide you at the right pace. When I affirmed to be an international workshop leader, it was two years before that happened. But in the meantime I was leading workshops, constantly grateful for everything I was learning, and polishing my skills. At the right time, the opportunity appeared. And so, dear reader, you now have the twelve steps to achieving your dreams. Go for them with great joy!
Rick and I are dedicated to helping people live their best life. We invite you to attend one of our workshops or purchase one of our products
to help YOU life your best life! To see what we are doing over the next several months, go to http://www.heartinspired.com/media/calendar.htm

Love and blessings, Patricia
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